Total Concentration
I made an error today during a conversation with my boss, one which I find that I often make and which someone commented upon in a different forum.
When someone starts communicating to a message to me, I pick up on the thread of the topic initially, make an assumption what it is about and then switch off!
The net effect is that I don't assimilate all the information that I need to, miss the key point or important data and alienate others.
Yesterday it was my boss. I interrupted before he had finished telling me about a potential sales lead by making an assertion that was subsequently incorrect.
He [ my boss] also said that I am not succinct enough in my replies to questions.
Its a question I think of thinking and saying what I want! This resonates of course with the Asperger cognition, but I know that I need to change if I am to operate effectively as a manager.
The answer is simple enough of course: listen properly and wait for people to finish and "log" all the information.
The point on the other forum though was that people with Asperger switch off quickly because they cannot encode all the data inherent within long discourses. I thought that this was very relevant and a reason why I do likewise.
Does anyone have any ideas about how information can be coded on an ongoing basis during conversations cgnitively (mentally)?
Concentration and Listening
Yeah, I can relate to this problem. Many times when someone is talking to me I tend to turn off a number of things that the person is saying. I usually try to get the main points of the conversation but I end up missing points that I should of listened to a little more carefully.
I also need to listen more carefully, slower and jot certain points down when needed.
Put it in writing
Malcolm, maybe suggest you would understand communications better if more of them were put in writing. I find it much easier to understand written instructions and can sometimes type faster than I talk.
Motivate to Listen
I try to jot down as much as I can for future reference, but all of that becomes irrelevant if I am not listening actively and fully.
I think in the example I cite above, it was laziness - not wnating to listen as attentively as I should have.
Another lesson going forward.