To Tell or Not To Tell
Deciding whether to inform a superior and work colleagues about an AS condition, is one of the most difficult and important of decisions facing a manager with AS.
The benefits and advantages of doing so are numerous. Firstly, it greatly enhances the ability of others to understand. If people know what Asperger constitutes, and what its effects are, they are more likely to feel able to accommodate both it and its effects. They are also likely to feel more comfortable, and less apprehensive, about being with, and working alongside, work colleagues affected by it.
The manager with AS will also feel more comfortable with not having to worry about whether others cannot empathise or how they may be operating. If formally diagnosed, then there is the added security under the Disability Discrimination Act (DDA).
In reality, the decision whether to divulge the condition is likely to be complex and influenced by a number of factors specific to individual circumstances. Most importantly of all, feeling able and comfortable about divulging the condition rests on the individual and internal feelings in the first instance.
The following factors are among those that are worth considering:
* Superior Manager. The relationship with a superior and whether a person feels able to trust them? If so, divulgence is probably a positive step. If a superior manager understands the condition, its affects and what is required to manage it effectively, they can provide support which will act as a support system and a buffer against potential pitfalls. Examples of the latter may include difficult work colleagues, office politics and periods of high pressure.
* Personal Confidence. Personal intuition should indicate whether or not a manager feels comfortable in telling colleagues around them. If intuition is saying that it will make people wary which, in turn, will impacts on internal feelings, then informing others is probably not advisable.
* Work Colleagues: personalities and existing relationships are paramount. If personal disposition towards an individual [AS manager] is positive and relaxed, then chances are that the circumstances will enable openness and communication to colleagues in a proactive, constructive manner. If the feeling is that people may be less than sympathetic, or unwilling to try and understand, then keep counsel is a more advantageous strategy.
The type of working environment will also exert a strong influence. An aggressive sales environment is likely to be less conducive to accommodating someone with requirements that require a degree of tolerance, as opposed to, for example, an educational establishment geared towards supporting people and developing them.
* Career Path: a Manager with AS may be conscious of the impact of being viewed as someone with a “disability” which, in turn, may impact negatively on progression towards higher managerial levels. It may not be openly stated, especially given legislation, but in reality, it is likely to be a — potentially negative - factor.
* The Disability Discrimination Act (DDA): having a formal diagnosis will provide a much greater degree of protection against adverse working conditions — discrimination, possible victimisation or failure by an organisation to accommodate the requirements and provide the conditions that an individual with AS requires to operate effectively.
Broadly speaking, if someone feels comfortable with a formal diagnosis and is au fait with the Act and what it constitutes, then it may act as a useful support mechanism. If the organisation you work for, and the managers within it, are aware of, and understand, the DDA, then revealing your condition is likely to prove beneficial.
* Additional Training: allied to the DDA is the obligation of an organisation to provide not only suitable working conditions for someone with AS, but also allied training and support.
There are numerous areas of expertise that can enhance the performance of a manager with AS: Assertiveness, Time Management, Change etc. If divulging one's condition secures this support, then this also is a positive reason for doing so.
* Diagnosis: if in possession of a diagnosis, a person will be covered by the DDA. Diagnosis may however, carry with it the perception of a stigma: there is a big difference between formal recognition and informal divulgence between a Manager and his superior only for example. The impact that any diagnosis may have on self-confidence is also important and needs to be considered. (interlink Diagnosis section).
Divulgence will largely depend on the relationship a person has with their manager and is very much a personal decision based on internal feelings and evaluation of individual circumstances. In general, not divulging unless there is a strong reason for doing so should be the starting point of any evaluation.

Letting colleagues know
At 49, I have recently discovered that I have AS, and am very much feeling my way at work. I am fortunate to have a supportive manager to whom I have disclosed, but I feel much less sure about telling the other members of my team. Nonetheless, I now appreciate that I have some very specific needs and difficulties.
What I find works for me, is to ask for what I need (such as time to think, or a quiet place to talk). Most people seem to react positively to this type of direct communication, and are happy to accommodate any reasonable request. As far as I can tell, it doesn't come across as at all unusual.
Sometimes I have to describe how I function. For example, I recently did something in a way that quite upset one of my colleagues, simply because I had missed the non-verbals. As part of my apology I explained that for me social awareness is processed in the conscious brain which I had been using for another task, and so had not picked up on the unspoken clues. This would be a giveaway for anyone who knows about AS, but I felt I had to take the risk. It seemed to be accepted, although I didn't in any way want to use my condition as an excuse.
My advice would be: if your boss has proved himself trustworthy, it is probably worthwhile telling him. With colleagues, it's probably better not to say anything. Instead, think about what things you need in order to function effectively in the workplace, and begin politely to ask for them.
I RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS
I've only been at my job a year and I can never tell if I'm doing ok. The expectations are very high and sometimes I feel I'm not keeping up. I spilled the beans to my supervisors partly out of impulsivity. I am newly understanding that I have Aspergers and I am also 47. Part of me is so relieved that I want to shout it to the roof tops. I feel I finally can understand myself. I don't have much family around me and there is no need to tell the family I do have since they are so dysfunctional they wouldn't even listen or would just say I was being silly.
So wherever I go, I find I'm so tingling with newness in the world, I want to share my new understanding about myself. Since I spend much of my time at work and find that is where most of my issues are, I decided to just blurt it out. I don't feel ashamed about who I am, but I do feel self - conscious.
I don't think I'll be staying at my job forever, but for now, I need some stability in my life and they did ask me to come back, so I must be doing at least some things ok.
Thank you for being here
TaMarah
Manager - employee dialogue
It's really difficult if you don't know how you're going. I am fortunate to have a manager who checks on progress through the week and gives regular praise and guidance (one of the signs of an effective manager). A previous boss used to tell me at the annual performance appraisal that I was doing fine, but I found it hard to believe that he ever really knew what I did, and I would spend months doing what I thought was best and hoping it was the right thing. Seeing as you have told your supervisors, I would encourage you to explain to them that part of AS is having difficulty with ambiguity, and with understanding what others are thinking and feeling. Go over the job description with them, and check that you have understood the relative priorities of your various duties. Let them know that regular feedback would help you do your job better. However, be aware that there is a fine line between periodic mature dialogue and the frequent approval seeking behaviour of needy dependent types - take a deep breath, draw yourself up, and live to the highest.
DDA cannot be applied retroactively
One point to remember is that the DDA comes into force only when the disabled person has disclosed. It cannot be applied retrospectively. For instance, if you fail to say in advance of an interview that you are deaf, you can't then sue an employer who doesn't provide you with a sign language interpreter. Similarly, if you end up losing your job due to behaviour attributable to A.S. and you disclose it after you have lost your job, you haven't got a leg to stand on and you can't sue an employer for not making allowances.