Still Finding it Hard
All the previous postings under this one forum have talked about how to overcome this issue. However, I still find it difficult.
As readers of my blog will appreciate I am seeing a conflictual situation developing and playing out in my current work between two colleagues.
The people involved are, firstly, my closest colleague and a really good bloke. The other third-party is new and not, to be honest, the type of personality that I would normally resonate with.
However, she has done nothing so far that has directly impacted upon on me negatively and past experience has taught me not to been prematurely judgemental - of show my displeasure or uncertainty - with someone who has done nothing to directly affect me!
However, the fact that I am not especially positively pre-disposed to the second person and the fact that she is unsettling/"provoking" my closest colleague has unnerved me somewhat.
I have started to view the second person in a different, dispassionate light, even though, as I say, she has done nothing to upset me.
I am going to be guarded against letting a potential conflict between two this-parties contaminate/affect my thinking and am working hard not to allow this mindset unsettle my judgement.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
Difficult Situation
This sounds like a very difficult situation to me. I would have trouble with something like this myself, especially in a work situation. I wish I can give you more insight and assistance with this. If I was in a situation like this I would be probably asking this forum the same thing.
If you can try and stay away from the trouble between your friend and this other person. Keep to yourself. If you feel shaky about this person conflicting with your friend just don't bother with them. Try not to get stuck in this conflict and/or end up being in the middle. My luck with something like this I would end up in a middle and be forced to take a side and/or be expected to resolve this situation.
Has your friend discussed this situation with you? Do you have a desire to talk to this other person and/or maybe do something (might be risky though)?
Sorry that you're in this mess.