How to assess the fairness, decency of a prospective new employer from an AS perspective ?
I wondered if others had experience with trying to assess the social health of a prospective new employment situation as a prospective employee. Can you really tell if you are going to be treated decently by a new employer, before making the decision to accept a job? What can you ask or say, while in dialogue with a prospective employer, to find out whether they are decent people or bastards, (or somewhere in between?)
In my current job I have experienced sustained mild verbal bullying by the owner-director. At my interview for this job, the owner and his wife stressed that they had a strongly worded anti-bullying policy - which they do have. But at the time, I didn't consider the possibility that they themselves would prove to be the principal transgressors of that policy.
In my previous job, I was the victim of backstabbing by peers and managers. In both cases, I believe the social docility, social naievity and social detachment/ withdrawal that are a consequence of having AS have caused me to be seen as 'bullyable' in the workplace.
I am on the point of applying for yet another job, and find that I am losing sleep over it, because I don't want to make a duff decision and clamber from fryingpan to fire as regards workplace bullying. This position is an unusual one in that it involves being stationed on a remote island during the week, with a few others, engaged in forestry activities, so it has some similarities with being an astronaut or sailor in the social-interaction sense. I have not as yet even submitted an application for this particular position.